We are ALL not Saints.

WHY the same people who preach in quote scriptures be the same people living foul and casting judgement on others. I am amazed by this.They sleep w/ married men ,steal from loved ones, lie, manipulate and other unworldly outlandish things yet scream to the world how blessed they truly are. " I am so blessed this and that " but these same people do the nastiest of things to almost everyone they know . Yet wonder why there situation isn't always so peachy. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying a quote here in there is being a hypocrite but when your whole facebook twitter myspace consist of nothing but this yet your nightlife speak different, who are you to tell the next what to do and how they are being perceived by God. We are all close to our maker which means your know better then the next. We all have lived in sin in know are faults but when you look down upon others you really should look in the mirror and face your own demons. Growth is possible in sometimes it takes others to connect with God at different times. Just because you go to church on sunday does not mean you should be a ratchett six other days out the week , gossip about other peoples lives in speak ill of their situation to any one who is willing listen. We all know the rules of the good book. So your subliminals are only confusing yourself. To conclude this post i will say it is great to connect wit God and share his word with others but when you use them as an indirect way of hitting people you should ask yourself what kinda of saint is a hypocrite? Then raise your hand and tell yourself about yourself. Good day.

Friends, Frenemies and Double Agents!?

In today's world if you asked a woman how many real friends does she have she'll probably pause in really have to think about it. Nowadays you really can't tell your friends from your enemies. Its crazy how you can meet someone through work school or even at a gym in that person would probably be a better friend to you then one you've known sum what your entire life. If you have any enemies I'm betting their former friends of yours. I can almost guarantee it. Remember the good ol days where loyalty played a big role in friendship, you could count on your friend to be there through thick and thin, You had her back and she had yours. If you ever had a problem, you could vent to her no matter what it was. Well now a days some of these so called "bitches" excuse me friends" aren't who tha portray themselves to be. I'll classify the breakdown on what is who. You have your "True Friends" if your lucky you've had at least 2 maybe even 3 of these in your lifetime ,rarely at the same time in I really doubt some have surpass this amount. The one you occasionally argue and make up with cause you know you couldn't live a single day without that crazy bitch. She don't silently hate on you or judge with that eagle eye she knows your flaws and always keep it real no matter what, she gives you space in tells you when your wrong in being stupid, or childish doesn't blab your business to a soul, will hold your hair while your leaned over in a toilet cause yo dumbass done drank to much or is right there with you on stake out at yo dudes house. Over the course of your friendship you can rely on her for just about anything her shoulder is always there to cry on she is your best friend your sister your right hand man.
Then you have your frienemy the one you keep second guessing. Tell her something in it gets out but she swear up in down she aint said a peep. The one who always tell you what to do when she's doing the exact opposite. Quick to give advise but want take it. Always got a negative comment for everything you do and or anyone else for that matter. Gossip Gossip Gossip she lives for it so much to the point where she often repeats a story cause she forgot she already told you. The bitch that will watch and let you look like a fool in a club rather then pull you to the side in say "Aye bitch yo ass is out you look stupid chill the fuck out" then help you pull it together in right by yo side until the club ends but naw that's not her. This bitch wants you to look burnt so she'll feel superior to you in not equal or more appealing to the nigga who probably bought you a drink in didn't offer her one. She's the friend you love yet you know you can't really trust her, cause she's secretly waiting and watching your every move, so she can run back in tell everyone all yo business to feel apart of some thing. The only reason ya'll still kick it to this day is because you genuinely do care about her after all she is your friend rite.!? Which brings me too a new discovery! A Double Agent..I had to laugh when one of my true friends explain this to me last night. This is when you have a friend who plays the role of a true friend but is indeed a frienemy. You really wouldn't be able to tell the difference until your friendship has ended .She jumps ships faster then a pirate when ya'll not cool no more she just so happens to hang with someone you guys no longer associated with but all of sudden their best friends over night. She'll be there for you listen to all your problems alright only to store retain and use against you after your no longer friends. These double agent bitches are the worst of em all simply because you don't know what their motives are. With a frenemy you know what your getting you know the limits of what to say around them. So my advice to you all is. Be weary of the company you keep. Someday conflict could arrive and you'll find yourself with a person who knows all your secrets and will use them against. I'm so happy I been blessed with my mom and sisters who are my best friends and I trust! My dad always use to say ya'll don't need friends ya'll got each other. And I do agree with him however I've also been blessed with a few true friends who are my sisters from another mother..if your reading this bitches I love u..ya'll know who ya'll are! So stay true to your real friends it reflects upon your character. Rid your circle of fake bitches. Watch how she treats her other friends take heed to her character. If she's quick to talk about another friend what makes you think she wouldn't do the same to you. If you have doubts about a friends loyalty don't tell her all your business. I use to have these double agent bitches in my circle until their covers were blown and they were unmasked revealing the inner ugly side of them as a person. Character,Actions and Loyalty will say a lot about someone you need to pay attention to just that. And avoid the drama of possibly having all your business thrown back to your face. Friends! How many of us have them? Never can be to sure..lol

No Service..Truth or Trust?

Food for Thought I wonder how many hands would go up if I asked, How many of ya'll check yo mans phone at least once maybe even every chance you get .For some of you probably all the time but rarely only a few might of had the mere thought of going through it to feed that little voice in your head. You know the one that will wake you up if his phone should so much as beep while the both of you are asleep. The one that has you up saying "Umm is it 2am in this nigga over here checking his text messages? Who the hell is that?" Which probably started the spark that has now become a seed of uncertainty. Nowadays you could really learn a lot and I mean a lot by what is in some ones iphone or blackberry. For instance whenever your dude phone rings or beeps does your eyebrows raise with intense curiosity as to who it might be especially if its after 9pm? Do you know the different ring tone or alerts for his phone? I don't care how secure you probably think you are but sometimes a women's intuition will steer you right. I'm sure its been thought about at least once. In for you ladies who never acted upon this crazy impulse I commend your strong will power cause I sure am one of the ladies raising my hand right now. No one I know likes to be lied to or made a fool of. So I'll give you my take on Truth or Trust when it comes to your mans phone. Just don't do it!!
I use to think I'd find all the answers I needed there. That's cause one day I made one of the dumbest mistakes a girl could ever make and read his messages. I don't know when or why I felt the urge to know what mysteries lurked in there. Could've been because he stayed on it or the nonstop ringing but mainly maybe because he guarded it with his life. Whatever the case was, one night I was caught off guard and was hot when some broad was on the line talking about she was his girlfriend..Umm pause say what!? I then had to know what was going on. Immediately I was hooked. I was now what you called a phone bandit sneaking around late at night to take a peek at who my dude was talking to every minute of the day, getting funky ass attitudes when it did ring or beep cause I really needed to know who he was texting and talking to better yet who was hitting him up and why. I started off by just checking messages and trying to guess the voice mail password then calling numbers not stored in his phone with my number blocked to see if a girl was gonna answer. So yes if you were one of the broads he was being friendly with back then 9 out of 10 it probably was me calling in hanging up in your faces.. lol.. so sad but so true. Truth be told there are so many others out there like me who once did this so I'm glad to know I'm not as crazy as I thought I was. I would do retarded shit like wait until he'd use the restroom or took a shower in begin my search. You probably would think I was a little Mc Guvyer do the drastic measures I would take like waiting up until he fell asleep in army crawling around the side of the bed heart beating so fast, praying he didn't wake up in see what I was doing. Especially wit not one clue of what I'd say if he woke up at 3 in the morning and I'm layin on the floor crawling around like a damn fool. For those who know me I'm pretty sure your picturing this dying laughing cause you know I really did this shit . Sitting back now I laugh at how ridiculous I must have look doing all kinds of sneaky ass James Bond moves,such as cracking codes, hiding in the closets so I could go through the messages in call logs breaking my neck to check in see what he was doing. Yeah real thirsty I know ya'll so please don't judge me. The shit some women do for they niggas I swear they had to be crazy in love ..or maybe just being young and dumb even though there are a few of ya'll old ones out there to. This was all because I built up an insecurity within myself cause of a damn phone. They say seek and you shall find and in some cases I did only to hurt my own feelings when I'd find either a basic conversation down to even a random naked picture of some lame ass ratchet broad. Of course I'd blow my cover once I'd find anything and an argument would soon surely follow once I confronted him. I would get the "Why you going through my phone speech in how disrespectful is that". Though he had a valid point didn't justify it. Ladies that will be there excuse. See I set myself up, since I made the decision to go through his business only to turn around in still stay in the end. Despite my findings on what I would say was incriminating evidence much to my surprise I only drove myself crazy and became paranoid bringing out an obsession that was very unhealthy. Even if he was doing nothing I still needed to validate my reason on looking, Always having to seek out what I thought was the truth. I allowed this crazy paranoia through the course of my relationship to be dictated by his stupid ass phone. When instead of just communicating with him and sitting down and talking to him about what I was feeling. Yes men will be men but as women we tend to live in denial sometimes about some of the shit we put up with. We tend to build are own insecurity and become so paranoid that we don't even care to notice what we're doing with are own confidence which is putting it in the hands of someone else. That we're much like them and in ways we are disrespecting them by invading their privacy especially when we find nothing. I use to be a strong advocate on going through a mans phone. I was so good at it my home girls would call in ask how could they too break the codes on the phones or check call logs without even having his phone in hand. I would create excuses within myself such as; it gives me a piece of mind and his business is my business cause we live together. When in fact its not! That's that mans business if he decides to give out his number or do anything in his phone that could possibly break are relationship even if its in your name its still his business. Why set yourself up for sabotage if it was meant for you to know you will. Don't add to the drama that he may be producing. We sometimes live on learning the hard way rather then just asking when something's bothering us and dealing with it. If you have to check up on your man like a kid then maybe you don't need to be in a relationship with him. We should all know by now a man is not perfect they cease to exist. We need to build on trust instead of finding reasons not to trust. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship with out talking how will you know your man and how can you trust him if you don't know who he is as a person? I love this quote "How will you know what you don't know", it simple if you don't go through his shit you won't know. Not saying play blind if you know the truth, bring it up,work it out and move on. Don't go searching when the signs are there already. My older home girls had to tell me all the time. So I'm now sharing my experience with you all through this blog. Build your trust and if he makes a mistake in breaks it,know he is only human. So you then should try to build with the broken pieces if you can or if its worth saving. I don't condone the snooping at this point nor am I justifying wrongness on a mans part by saying not to check his phone. I'm simply saying it'll only further confuse things and will have your mind playing tricks on you most of the time. In today society with all the temptations around and available social networks as outlets to meet new people. The phone has now become not your only problem if it is one you'll have to check everything. After the phone next it'll will be the emails ,twitter, facebook etc. Then you'll become so involved with this it can turn into an obsession. Leaving you no time to have a life of your own cause your to caught up in his. So you have to have faith in your man to do the right thing. We all know its hard to trust someone especially if they let you down before. But like my momma always said "What you do in the dark will surely come to light". So let the truth seek you and you become the bigger person and leave that damn phone alone. You'll know if its meant to be or if its time to move on.

Happy Easter...

Just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Easter.Jesus died for our sins and rose on again on this beautiful day and much like him we've all got our crosses to bare,So what ever problems, troubles and are worries your going through at this moment in your lives set them to the side and rest assure in God cause he will see you through it.Then you to shall rise and live gloriously in his Kingdom so with that I hope you all have a safe and beautiful blessed Easter day..Jondelle`

Side Bitches

From the beginning of time side bitches have hung around,snuck around and fucked around with someone ELSE'S man.I never could understand why some women could be so vindictive, sneaky and desperate to depreciate their value for a man!? Someone else's sorry ass man at that.I often ask myself how could someone cheat herself out of love for someone who's already committed himself to another woman.How could you allow yourself to get tangled in his web of lies deceit and cold hearted selfishness. Some of you side bitches are actually ok with sharing this man who wasn't even yours to began with WtF!!? Why!!?? This stupid shit is so mind boggling to me.One of the many sad parts of it is they seemed to think they to could possibly have what that woman has,like they to deserve the same attention time and love as the girlfriend fiancee` or wife gets.I have NEVER nor will EVER belittle myself as a person.I am numero UNO..and you side bitches should find a good quality within yourself to know your worth. 9 out of 10 men never actually leave their devoting girlfriends or wives for a bitch who knew he was with and or married too. I would feel sorry for these mistresses,side bitches or poor self esteem woman but they make their on beds.And they need to learn how to respect themselves before anyone else will!

Hi Im New here..

Greetings every1....As I sit behind this computer I contempt every aspect of my life.The GOOD The BAD and yes The REALITY(Ugly)... I realize that through all these different experiences I've been blessed to enjoy the good except the bad and understand the reality.I'm a mom a girlfriend a daughter a sister an aunt a friend and a strong believer in God. I am on a journey in have not a clue where my destination will take me but the ride I've been on has indeed been a trip thus far I'm glad to welcome you to the In's and outs of my life feel free to comment or leave questions if you like there isn't a topic I wont speak on so please feel free...with Love Jondelle`